The Marshmallow Experiment

A few weeks ago, I was listening to my favorite "science is cool" radio show, RADIO LAB and decided to put on my lab coat and use Luke as a guinea pig. Don't worry, there were no muscle biopsies, blood samples or extremely intense bike time trials. Instead it involved cookies.

The program I listened to had an interview from Columbia University psychologist Walter Mischel. In the 1960s, Mischel tested hundreds of 4-year-olds with marshmallows and Oreo cookies and found some very interesting stuff about willpower and delayed gratification.

Mischel put a 4-year-old in a room alone with a marshmallow or a cookie on a table and told the child he was going to leave the room. He said told the child not to eat the cookie, and if they waited until he got back, they could have two cookies.

Some kids ate the cookies right away, and others waited. One day he was talking with his daughter a few years later (who was used in the study along with many of her friends) and was asking how Jenny or Bobby was doing. He noticed that the kids who resisted the treat were doing better than the kids who ate the cookie. So he did a follow up study and found that the kids who showed self control had better SAT scores, had more education, were more healthy - all kinds of crazy things.

So, with Luke being 4, I decided to give it a try. I was a little afraid - what if he ate the cookie?


I put the cookie in front of him, gave him the speech, walked away, and with a sigh of relief, heard him singing "Who stole the cookie from the cookie jar?". Great strategy - distraction. After about 15 minutes, I told him he was all done, he could have an ice cream sandwich, and that I expect great things out of him.

Disclaimer: if you listen to the interview of Mischel, he will be the first to tell you that there are always outliers, and that if a child eats a cookie, it really doesn't mean that your child is doomed to a certain path. He also talks about how you can teach your children certain self control strategies. So you can tell your kids you expect great things out of them, whether or not they eat the cookie.

Happy Belated Birthday

My little Miles is 1 and full of life and mischief. I wouldn't have it any other way.

PS- Kate, thanks for the shirt. If Miles is ever being naughty, I just stick him in this shirt and it makes me smile. How can you get mad at a Hawaiian shirt Miles who points his little finger at you as if to say, "Hey, what's up, dude?"

This is your brain on chocolate cake

Warning: You are about to read about a very cool science experiment.

Do you have a hard time passing up sweets? Well, your prefrontal cortex may be the culprit.

Professor Baba Shiv from Stanford University designed a "sweet" science experiment where he had his subjects memorize a 7-digit number or a 1-digit number. Then they walked down the hall to another room, where they would tell another person their number. Along the way, a member of the research team stopped them in the hall and offered them a snack as a way of saying thanks. They could choose either a big slice of chocolate cake or a bowl of fruit salad. The majority of the people who were assigned the 7-digit numbers picked the cake over the fruit salad.

Shiv speculates that the effort required to memorize seven numbers limited cognitive resources, decreasing our ability to control our urges. This lines up with the brain's anatomy since working memory and self-control are both located in our prefrontal cortex. A high cognitive load was enough to overload the rational part of the brain and make the person go with the cake. When our mind is stressed or overloaded, it causes us to be more reliant on our impulsive emotions.

So, if you are stressed out, busy with life, or just have a lot on your plate, take a second to think before you choose what to eat.

And if you really want the chocolate cake, here is a recipe for the best chocolate cake I have ever had. I don't do the whole orange thing - the cake itself is decadent enough. Make sure you serve it with a homemade raspberry sauce. It's delicious.

Pay it forward...

I "won" a pay it forward blog post, but now have to do my part, so...

The first three people to respond to this post will get something made by me!
Made with tons of love just for you! It might be a fun sewing project, a sweet letter to you from me, or some yummy goodies, you might be surprised what you get! Give it a try!

The catch?

You must re -post this on your blog and offer the same to the first 5 people who do the same on your blog. The first 3 people to do so and leave a comment win a lovely little treat for themselves! Have Fun!

Ready........Set............Go!

PS - I really despised the movie "Pay it Forward". I hope that doesn't make me heartless or cold. It's just that Haley Joel Osmond really creeps me out. I hope he turns out OK.

Free Quiznos

If you know me, you know that I like things that are annoying and weird. Hence, the Quiznos commercial. I'm sad they haven't brought back these very talented rodents.

Right now, Quiznos is giving away subs, maybe in retribution for these commercials. Who knows...

You can get your free sub here.

http://www.millionsubs.com/Reg.php?x=1

Vacation!!!

I would love a vacation before I turn into the crocodile bag. Here are my top 3 places I'm dreaming about right now...

1. Disneyland - always a favorite. I really want to take Luke to the Peter Pan Pool at the Disneyland Hotel. If I don't answer the phone tomorrow, you'll know I made a break for it and we're driving to LA.



2. Thailand - a recent obsession. We went out to dinner for Thai food with some friends, and they told us all about their trip to Thailand. Masman curry, pad thai, secluded beaches, and 3 cent fairy rides...Sounds amazing.



3. A cruise - I don't care where it goes. All I want to do is read, eat shrimp cocktail, and order room service. Travis and I were going to go on a cruise for our 5 year anniversary, but instead chose to do a 1/2 Ironman. I think I'd choose the cruise this time around.



*Have any other suggestions? I'm open. I know you bloggers out there are very well traveled, so throw out any of your favorite vacations. Travis and I are actually trying to take a REAL vacation this year.

Dear Ann Curry,

Dear Ann Curry,

I was amazed to discover that, in addition to being a broadcast journalist, you are also a baby whisperer. When I was watching Dateline NBC last night, and you stood up to speak for Nadya Suleman's children "who could not speak for themselves," I thought, "Wow." With a gift like that, you should expand into some sort of reality advice show where you communicate with other newborns. I am curious, what Nadya's babies said to you? "My mother is irresponsible and should not have produced me. The nerve of that woman! Who does she think she is?"

My 9 month old has recently begun been waking up & crying during the night. Could you speak for him and tell me what is wrong? Is he hungry, lonely, or just plain irritated at me? Your talent would really help me get some more sleep.

Sincerely, Heidi

PS- I am not necessarily endorsing having 14 kids as a single mom. Obviously Nadya Suleman has issues. That is an entirely different post, which I will never write, and frankly, no one cares what I think. But I do find it interesting that so many people who are pro-choice are also irate at her choice to have so many kids. So, does the "My body, my choice" only apply when disposing of a fetus?

PPS- I actually really do like Ann Curry, so if you still want to come over and chat, you are more than welcome to.

Winner

So, Miles is actually chilling out right now, so time to blog. I have so many good suggestions for blogging - I think I will take up everyone's suggestions, so no excuse for lack of blogging, right?

I decided to write about...

the crazy things Luke says. Winner, winner, chicken dinner for Whitney and Karen. It will also double up as a journal entry for Luke since I have been slacking. (And runner up is Kate, so many good ideas. Favorite things will be next, followed by an ode to my witty sister-in-law). Look for a fun mail day.

1. The other morning, he announced to me "I have a polka-dotted brain."

2. He was driving with Travis and said, "You know what, Dad? You are pretty lucky to have such a funny kid. And I am pretty lucky to have such a funny Dad. We're silly guys."

3. Luke has learned that whenever he has a problem, he can pray to Heavenly Father for help. He got a balloon, and let go of it in our living room. Since our ceilings are high, no one could get it down. He was so distraught, he went and sat on his bed, and between sobs was saying, "Heavenly Father, Heavenly Father, please help me. Please get my balloon down." He tried that for 5 minutes, then a pause. Then he started up again, "Ironman, Ironman, please help me. Please get my balloon down. Ironman can fly." Pretty good reasoning.

4. Luke gets married every Sunday to a shy little girl named Allie with cute purple glasses. When Allie got her glasses, her mom said she was afraid Luke wouldn't like them. But he does. He told her she looked beautiful. He calls her "My Allie."

5. Luke likes to perform stand up at the Post Office. Yesterday, there was a line of 15 people, one postal worker, and everyone was dead silent and cranky. He got up on a little bench and proceeded to show everyone all the various office supplies - "Here is some paper. This is tape. I like bubble wrap," etc. And then he said "And I have a MOM!" Somehow everyone was laughing, and he nodded his head like he found the best treasure in all the post office.

6. Luke likes to talk in his Yoda voice. "Mom, Master Yoda wants something to eat." "Use the forest" (aka the Force), and "Do or do not, there is no try."

7. Every time we go to Grandpa Phillip's house, he brings me the bouquet of fake red tulips and says, "You're beautiful."


PS - Matt, I can't remember all the excuses Luke gave for not being able to pick up his room. I think I just block it out. I'll have to be more observant next time.

Blogger's Block

I've got blogger's block. Any suggestions?

PS - If I write about your suggestion, I'll send you a little something in the mail as a thank you for helping me out. I feel like my brain is turning to mush...

Latest Happenings...

I've neglected the blog. Here's a quick update...

My oldest monkey turned 4. I made him a star wars cake. He got a pet fish. He named it Otto.

My littlest monkey enjoyed seeing everyone over the holidays. He especially liked snuggling Aunt Aarika. He liked the boxes and wrapping paper, and dancing to the song "Bruises" by Chairlift (that one on the ipod commercial).

I like icicles. This one was on Aunt Tracey's house. She had a great collection. When we were first married, I grew giant icicles with our leaky outside hose spigot. Then I would break them off and pretend I was a javelin thrower in the Olympics. I always won the gold.

Travis is enjoying his sweet mustache. My mom is not. She couldn't even look at him. Too bad it is forever immortalized in his Wii character...

Wii sidenote: I am a horrible bowler in real life, but I have figured out if you channel Mary-Katherine Gallagher on your release, you can get a pretty decent score.

New Year's PartA!!!

Happy New Year! We had a great time ringing in the new year. Emy won the limbo, Angela danced her way to an Olive Garden gift card, and we all got silly with some virgin mixed drinks and a booming system. I haven't danced like that for 10 years. We poured out a little Martinelli's for everyone who couldn't come.

What are you doing New Year's Eve?

I know it's last minute, but if you are around, come on down. We rented out a building downtown. Call or email me for the address
mainstreetnewyears@gmail.com

PIE FEAST!

Hello, blog buddies. It's time for our annual PIE FEAST! Here is your official invite. If you can read this, you are invited (unless you are some crazy stalker, in that case, you are not invited). Come celebrate the season and eat some pie!

Photo tag from Amanda

Great tag, Amanda. Here is my 4th picture from the 4th file on my computer. Just me and my little monkey being crazy. Isn't Photobooth fun? I found a few more photobooth pictures worth posting...





In honor of photobooth, I tag anyone who has a mac, wished they had a mac, hates macs, or has a great picture in their 4th folder, 4th file.

halloween

Happy Halloween!

This year, Luke was Luke Skywalker. He wanted Miles to be Yoda, but I already bought a dragon costume, but since it was green, we pretended he was Yoda, and it worked out just fine.

Travis dressed up as Darth Vader (in Luke's Darth Vader costume, mind you - a little snug, but adorable). Luke wanted me to be Princess Leia.


Travis agreed, hoping it would be this princess Leia.

I was a bum this year and instead just settled for wearing an orange shirt. I really wanted to be Lucille 2 from Arrested Development, but without a George Michael or a nevernude as part of my crew, it would just be too much explaining why I was wearing a sequinned moo-moo and having vertigo problems.

Thank you Sophie, Ray and Kristin

I would like to thank Sophie Connors. When she was just a tiny tot, she would rock out to this cool guy named Ray Lamontagne. John and Ash played us a few songs and promptly went out and bought his CD. His sound was so cool different and so big to come out of a tiny little white guy. I feel like I have been trying to see him in concert for years, and it has never worked out, until last night. It was great! Leona Naess opened for him,which also was so fun to see, considering how much she saved my sanity. Some nights, her CD would be the only thing that would make Luke fall asleep. The night would have been perfect if they didn't take Paul Jacobsen off the ticket at the last minute.

Our super sitter, Kristin, played with the boys and it sounded like they had a great time. I can say that because this morning when I got on the computer, I found this:

So, thank you Sophie for the introduction, thank you Ray for an outstanding performance, and thank you Kristin for loving my little guys!

Fall Colors & "Friday Eve"

I love the leaves in the Fall, and being the biased person I am, I think Payson Canyon rivals almost anywhere in the world as far as the changing leaves go. We took some family pictures yesterday (Travis is amazing with the self-timer).


As tomorrow is Friday Eve*, anyone who is willing to drive or walk to our house is invited for some Fall colors (before they are gone, and we get that "icky white stuff" as Beverly calls it), a little Office, games and treats.


*Travis invented a new holiday called Friday Eve. Super fun. It's much better than festivas because it comes once a WEEK. see his blog www.treidi.blogspot.com for further details.

Right now

Right now Heidi loves...

-copying Kate's blogs. I have run out of creativity and I loved her format for one of her recent posts (click here) so I copied it. Copying is the highest form of flatery, right?

-General Conference. There's nothing like a good spiritual kick in the rear.

-Peaches

Right now Heidi does NOT love...

-the Dodgers. (Don't stop here, LA readers. And please don't tell Ronnie Brown. I would very quickly overlook my little pet pieve if I ever got to go with her to a game, and heckle the players with all the celebs while eating my bases loaded nachos.) I hate how so many players look like a thug or a homeless person. I mean, really, where is Tim Gunn? Can't he get those players some uniforms that fit right, shave nasty goatess, or do something with Manny's hair? What did Joe Torre do to get those Yankees looking so spit-spot all the time? You may hate the Yankees, but you've got to admit that Jeter and A-Rod sure know how to wear a uniform. I guess it's just an East coast/West coast kind of thing.

-hearing the word Maverick. If I have to hear it one more time, I think I'll scream, because everytime I hear it, I want a Maverick frozen yogurt, and the nearest one is in Springville, but if you want the good flavors, you have to drive to Provo. Sidenote: the other day they had pumpkin frozen yogurt - amazing!



Right now Luke loves...

Luke Skywalker, blue and green "light savers", preschool, peach pie, the Halloween costume adds that come in the mail, and calling his parents "Heidi" and "Travis"



Luke does NOT love...

Darth Vader, red light sabers, cleaning his room.





Right now Miles loves...

rice cereal and green beans, Luke, and his pacifier. I will give a blog bonus point to anyone who can tell me what I called my pacifier when I was little.



Miles does NOT love...

being put down, and not being able to crawl.



And because I think it is such a good idea, I'm going to tag people (and yes, if I tag you, in your "NOT love" column, you can automatically put "being tagged." But I don't care. Selfishly, I think you are funny and can't wait to see what ends up on your list.) - PS English majors - how do I punctuate this last paragraph? It looks like a nightmare!



So, I tag...

drumroll please...



The Connors, The Mowreys, Kristy, Angie, Amanda, and anyone else who needs some blogging inspiration (ahem, Kristin and Whitney).

Blog Vomit

I have neglected the blog for a while, and some fun stuff has happened, so here it is. My blog vomit. Everything at once, bits and pieces, just a random sampling of things that probably only my mom will enjoy. So, here you go, Mom.

I finished Miles's room. Hooray!

Whitney got married. The sealing was amazing. She looked beautiful. We made almost 600 cupcakes. Travis was super cute in his apron. Luke loved wearing his Calvin Klein Suit and tie. My mom had a great hair day, and I'm so glad we got to choose our own "bridesmaid" dresses.

We went to Disneyland. The new Toy Story ride is great. Loved it. Luke because obsessed with Star Wars, and became a Disney Padawan. Now he takes his light saber with him everywhere, just in case Darth Vader appears... he's ready.

I got 3rd place in the Onion Days photography contest. What do you mean you've never heard of it? it's very prestigious. Subsequently, I've decided to start taking more pictures. I started my photography blog at beeskneesphotography.blogspot.com.

(Jones Family and King kids, I hope you don't mind, but you are on my blog. Supermodels. Just practice signing your autograph and get used to the paparazzi. You'll adjust just fine, I promise).

It's the end of the world...and I feel fine!

Last night, scientists activated the Large Hadron Collider (LHC), to "unlock the secrets of the Universe" (or as many others feared, end the world!). The whole project is pretty cool. I hope they find another dimension, or create a mini black hole. If you want to learn more about it, watch this:

Large Hadron Rap

or, if you don't find science geeks rapping hilarious, you can be boring and read this article or this article.